What we feed our minds is easily as important as what we feed our bodies.
Wholehearted is soulfood for your mind, a weekly observation to nudge your thinking and warm your heart.
Over the next nine weeks, I’ll be writing about the principles I believe underpin our decision to choose a better life. Your thriving life might require a complete about-turn, or simply a one degree shift. The effects of a massive change are obvious, yet even a slight alteration of your course will have repercussions.
Imagine there’s a straight line in front of you stretching to the end of your life. Perhaps it marks a relationship, health or career trajectory that you are unhappy with. One slight change, a one degree shift can change everything. As the line extends, that one degree moves you quietly further and further away from the original path.
Whether it’s choosing a different attitude or choosing to make a stand, the starting point is to believe that there are other options.
For most women, social conditioning expects us to put others first. While that positively nurtures families and friendships, it also risks us becoming invisible people-pleasers. That path leads to frustration, regret and resentment. The alternative might seem to put yourself first, but most women tell me that feels selfish.
There’s a third option - one extra word - that offers a way forward. What if you put yourself first equal?
One word confirms that your needs matter just as much as those of others. Not less, not more, but equally.
If that was the case, how would your life change? Would you give priority to yourself sometimes? Would you say ‘no’ more often? Would you change other’s perceptions of you? And most importantly, how would your belief in your own value change?
People-pleasing is a habit and, as such, takes time to change. How can you start to make your needs just as important as those of the people around you?
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